I woke up in the middle of the night certain that I had just an orgasm. Not just any orgasm. A big OMG orgasm and no offense to my ex-husband or any man from my past, it was hands down one of the best orgasms of my life, perhaps the best orgasm ever.
But when I turned to look at my husband at the time, he was fast asleep. I knew he hadn’t participated in the making of said orgasm but I was certain I hadn’t imagined it. I didn’t want to tell my husband; it felt funny sharing it with him, as if I had cheated on him. What would one call it? Dreamcheating? It was too strange, and had never happened to me before. But on the following night when I had another particularly lustful dream the contents of which I blush to remember, which ended with yet another delicious, “Oh my god, Oh my god, Oh my god” moment, I knew I had to investigate.
It turns out, it wasn’t my ex-husband who was giving me these orgasms. It was my unborn child— or more accurately, the hormones produced by my unborn child!
I was in my second trimester, and women in their second trimester have sexual dreams. According to Rose Hartzell, certified #sex therapist with San Diego Sexual Medicine, during the second trimester, many women experience a surge of hormones (including testosterone), which can significantly boost their sex drive. Thanks to that extra surge of hormones and increased blood flow to the genitals, a woman’s dreams can become extra erotic and even orgasmic. Not a coincidence, dear hubby, but biology!
Who knew! Not me. Traditional medical websites are mum on #pregnancy’s secret little gift. If you google “second trimester dreams,” you won’t find what I am talking about on any of the internet’s numerous pages. WebMD tells me that it’s common for pregnant women during the second trimester to have dreams about little animals, representatives of babies. Babble tells me that it’s common for women to have anxiety dreams about raising children. None of the sites though, are talking about the juicy stuff! You have to troll the pregnancy boards of more honest mothers revealing similar stories to find out about the more sexual side of pregnancy dreams like my “middle of the night” orgasm. If only I could make my body do that again willingly!
I finally started confessing to my girlfriends and to my surprise, many had had similar experiences or incredibly huge sex drives towards the end of pregnancy. From confessions of middle of the night orgasms to sex drives that veered on the ludicrous, my female friends slowly but surely emerged from their “pregnancy sex story” closets.
So when you have a hot flashback to that one night- stand you had a few years ago before you got married in the middle of the night when you’re twenty- five weeks pregnant, don’t feel guilty—enjoy it! And tell your girlfriends the juicy details later. Wink.